How do i become motivated like her?

ok i have a friend. she's straight a's and a and NEVER missed a homework (except once in music but then she cried since she got a 0, but all my other friends did. the hw was kind of unannounced). she smiles so much and uses a sweet voice in front of the teachers. all the teachers LOVE her and say that she'll be successful. she's went to a learning center ever since she was 10 and shes in 8th grade now and is going to learn pre calc in the summer there since she has the money to. she's not smart smart but she tries really really hard. like if theres something like a quiz, she'll study for a couple of hours. she just studies all day and never gets distracted or anything, and she always does extra in projects but she doesnt really raise her hand a lot.





how do i become as motivated as her? she doesnt even watch tv or hang out or anything. like everything is about education and fitness. and she's skinny and knows how to control how much she eats.





like i dont want to overdo it that much, but how do i become more like her? i study only enough to get an A, so i'm not an overachiever and i dont do more than what's needed...



Don't stress yourself out, she is probably terrified of slipping lower and I'm sure she lives a panicky life inside. You seem to be doing very well without having to pressurise yourself (A's are brilliant in anyone's book), so enjoy the fact that you can get by on your smarts and don't need to force yourself to acheive.





I know how you feel, I struggle to motivate myself too, have always slid by on my intelligence, but finally (at the ripe old age of 26) am getting to grips with the fact that I'm acheiving pretty well considering I don't put any particualar effort in. I'm happy I'm so lucky as to be able to do that...




This no doubt comes from the fact that her parents are also driven to success. She was raised to not just do well but be the best.





Do you want to be the best? Do you want to be the CEO fo the company? Are you a winner or a whiner? Second place is just first loser. Now get out there and kick some butt!!!




Your on the right track, Id hang around her more, She seems to be a good influence..





Its good to see people who try to better themselves instead of all these people who are trying to collect as many things as they can before they die :)


good luck!!




if ur the 2nd like motivated, kill her and throw her in a dump. then u ll be as motivated as her. well to be first that is when shes in heaven (or....but i doubt it).




Obviously, be on time.





You are much more likely to get a good grade if the teacher knows your name and associates you with someone who pays attention.





People who don't speak up in class are at an extreme disadvantage. So, participate in class. Don't be one of those students that sits there silently all semester - you'll look dull and like you don't care. In class I think raising your hand to ask a question is more useful than raising your hand to answer one. Asking a question shows that you care, that you are thinking about what's being taught, and that you are not asleep :p





Sit in a clearly visible spot and don't change your seating location during the semester. Somewhere around the middle of the classroom is good, a couple rows back from the front. People who sit in the front row voluntarily tend to be know-it-alls who even get on the teacher's nerves in my experience - also they get overlooked by the teacher physically because it's awkward to look at someone so close while teaching. Back corner of the class says you don't care and want to sleep. Near the door says you're late or you're leaving early.





Talk to the teacher after class. It's a sure way to make sure they remember your name (in addition to raising your hand during class) and you win points if you can make interesting observations about what was taught. If it's not too awkward try asking them some things about themselves (why did you decide to study this? do you teach any other classes on this subject? etc.) but only ask if you really want the answer, people can tell when you're not genuine.





When you're in class, try to make sure you smile at the teacher. Many people's "concentrating" face is rather blank, and it must be quite intimidating to have a classroom full of people staring at you unsmilingly. Smiles are contagious and you can actually improve someone's mood by smiling at them.





Close to test time, chat with your teachers after class or after school...you are much more likely to give away information about what is on the test than they would be in the classroom.








... Advice other than professor-psychology tips - never underestimate the usefulness of study groups. Other people will have caught things during class that you missed. Other people's study methods sometimes work really well if only because they're different than what your brain is used to.





If you have many things to memorize (such as vocabulary) try associating each thing with a picture or action. The more strange it is, the better you'll remember it. With vocabulary I've personally found it's easier to remember words if they're in sentences, strange sentences work best. Though I've never had to use the Japanese word for "covered in" I will never forget it, because one of my classmates decided to use "a person covered in chocolate" as an example sentence.